Hi, I’m Rachel Fowler, a grief guide and coach.  I work with adults, no matter their age.

 

People grieve for many reasons, the most obvious being the death of a loved one.  But any loss can cause grief, and if unattended, that loss will become the foundation for the next one and the next one and soon one can become burnt out, our base line too high to be resilient, feeling stretched incredibly thin.

 

Let’s start with a definition of grief, from John James & Russell Friedman:

 

“Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behaviour.”

 

The key here being change.  

 

Change brings uncertainty.  It brings questions about our identity, who we are now that this change has occurred.

 

• Changing jobs - retiring, moving companies, new positions

• Changing relationships - death of a parent, child, sibling, lover, spouse.  Or a breakup, a divorce

• Changing countries - international moves!  I’ve done my fair share of these

• Changing houses - even more of these!

 

There are lots of positives that may come from these for sure, but there is something lost as well.  Imagine:

 

• A new mother, in love with her child and mourning her loss of freedom and autonomy

• A new husband, thrilled to be married to his love, and missing feeling/being only responsible for himself 

• A retiree, excited to travel and live the good life, and dreaming of the business collaborations that she no longer enjoys

• A family, immigrated to a new country, thrilled to experience new adventures, and missing family, friends, and traditions of their homeland

 

Whatever change you may be experiencing, or have experienced in the past, it can be daunting to let yourself feel everything.

 

If a loved one has died, it may feel like you will weep forever.  Or that you have to stay strong for everyone around you. Perhaps you feel guilty for having less than loving thoughts about the deceased, sometimes throwing yourself into an existential crisis of shame and denial.  And the cycle continues.

 

Being human is a complex and nuanced experience, and there is room for both dark and light in any personal experience – truly if there aren’t both, it’s hard to tell what’s good and what’s not!

 

Sessions with me are a safe place to explore your feelings, judgement free, and to give breath to your truth.  (insert blog about A Monster Calls)  It gives you an opportunity to look at your choices and your relationships and become curious about them.  What’s good and what could be even better if…?  

 

I’ll pull gently at some strings to bring your awareness to your story, your coping mechanisms, and we’ll discover what’s working and what could be improved on.  Mediation, storytelling, role play, creative writing, and theatre improv are all part of our tool box.  

 

So….  

 

As you move into your new life with this new change, what will you take with you and what will you leave behind?

 

Let’s discover it together!  

 

Contact me below for a FREE 30 minute session, I can’t wait to hear your story.